If God judged everyone based off their sins and mistakes we all would be dead! So why do we judge people when they make mistakes, there is always room for change, and if there is a God then anyone can change. We need to stop judging others, and speaking death over them and nailing them to the cross. We need to be encouraging them instead of tearing them down with our our tongues. because we have no cross to be trying to hang someone else on, and if we see some one has or having a problem or they have committed a wrong doing, we quickly put our mouth on them to their face or behind their back only tearing them down more than what they are doing to their own self.
Proverbs 18:21 says, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof." The words that we speak, are they life or death, do they give us hope or discouragement?
Has anyone ever said something negative to you, and you just wilted and felt like you had died inside, or perhaps they said some beautiful words to you, then you just blossomed like a flower. This is the way of the tongue. Let us, therefore, tend to life with our tongue, which may seem to be an impossible task; but be assured with God all things are possible (Mk 9:23). We will and shall be able to tame the tongue and only speak living words of life and reality.
In Proverbs 26:20 we also find these words: "Where no wood is, there the fire goes out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceases." When our wood, hay and stubble are consumed, the carnal fire has gone out, but the eternal flame of God will burn forever.
"And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and is set on fire of hell, for every kind of beast, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.”
Therewith bless God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter?" (Jms.3:6-11).
It doesn't matter what someone has done to you are what someone is doing, if you can't come to them and say brother or sister let me pray with you and for you for your deliverance, then we should not kill them with our own mouths. Do not speak death over them by telling them they will never change because you are not God and with God all things are possible.
When we began to speak death over others it is a form of witchcraft, and the more we speak negative of others the more we began to speak things into existence. I myself try to be careful with my words when I am angry or upset with someone, because at that time is when our tongues work the most, and it is also the time when we tend to say the first and most hurtful things that come to our minds. I learned a meaning of this in a phycology class, when we do this it’s called “transfer of emotions off one to another”, meaning that whatever a person has done to us we want to try to make them feel the hurt that they have caused us. So we do this with that little pink thing in our mouths.
Even when we know what we are saying will hurt the person, we still go forth with letting the hurt flow out of our mouths. Sometimes a person can be such a good friend, sister, brother, cousin, boy or girlfriend but they can kill you with one sentence from their lips... there is another saying that, “actions speaks louder than words”. Well that’s a two side statement because no matter how good of a person someone may show you they are, when they get angry with you, their mouth begins to speak things that instantly bring tears to your eyes, and you feel as if that person has literally slapped you in the face, or they have taken a dagger and pierced through to your soul.
Let us pray for our own tongues to be tamed, so that we will not tear someone down even more, that is already bound, being an enemy to their own self, or someone who has fallen into a spiritual death, because at the end of the day when we stop and think about our own lives and what wrongs we are doing on a daily basis, if you and the person you have your mouth on tearing them down; if the both of you died right now in the middle of your own sins, without the chance to repent, you both would be going to a burning hell.
As when the men of the village brought the woman to Jesus to stone her, and as he began to write in the sand, he only spoke these words, “he that is without sin cast the first stone”, and they all disappeared, before he finished writing. I believe that he was writing down sins that each of them was committing.
In my closing I am not saying that we should not be upset or express our hurt that someone else has caused us, or we should not go to a person that we see needs some changes in their life, but it’s how we go and how we talk to the person. And if we are to go to others with this person’s issues, it should not be to gossip, but to gather together and pray for the individual. Let us pray for the heart of God to enter into us so that we will view others through the eyes of God and not our own eyes.